Whether intentionally or unintentionally, we create some standards or conditions for ourselves to live up to, for achieving the type of life that we desire, or to be what we want to be.
If we have no attachment towards these standards or conditions that we create for ourselves, then there’s no harm for having these conditions or standards as a guideline to live the type of life that we desire, or try to be what we want to be. We do our best to live up to the standard or quality that we want for our life, and be what we want to be. But we are not determined by any of these conditions or standards of living to be who we are, to be confident, happy, meaningful and peaceful, or not.
If we have attachment towards certain conditions and standard of living that we desire, then this will not just generate unnecessary limitation to ourselves, we might also generate unnecessary inconvenience or tension to other people in order to fulfill our demands towards certain conditions or supports to achieve the life that we desire. We’ll get unhappy, dissatisfied, disappointed and frustrated towards certain obstacles that obstruct us to achieve the type of life that we desire (the way that we like it to be), and we’ll have fear and worry towards losing the conditions or supports that provide the type of life that we desire.
When we generate a demand for achieving certain conditions, or standards, or qualities that we like to have, it does not just depending on oneself to make it available or be practical. It requires many other elements or cooperation from many other people to make the condition to be available.
There are many people in the world who don’t have a choice of what type of life and living condition that they would like to have. When we live in an area that is free from war, unrest, violence, hunger, thirst, major natural disasters, and etc, we want to have something more than what the universe has been providing us. We don’t just need food, but we want food the way that we like and want. We don’t just live life, but we want to live life the way that we like it to be. We don’t just wear clothing, we want to wear clothing with particular quality, material, design, colour, style, or brand. We don’t just be as we are, we want to be somebody with certain qualities of names and forms, and we want to have certain image and appearance.
We’ll get upset and frustrated when we don’t get “the type of life” that we desire (the way that we like it to be), if we attached to or are determined by “the type of life” that we desire to be who we are, to be confident, happy, meaningful and peaceful, or not.
Sometimes we think we are simple minded, and we want to live a simple life. But, if we look at ourselves and our behavior, there are many demands about this and that to support “the simple life” that we would like to have. We “desire” a simple lifestyle, but when this simple lifestyle is unavailable the way that we think it should be, we’ll get frustrated, unhappy, dissatisfied and disappointed. As we are restricted by our demand towards certain conditions, or standards, or qualities that we want for our lives (It doesn’t matter whether it is something simple, or yogic, or organic, or exciting, or adventurous, or luxurious, or spiritual, or peaceful, or happy, or healthy, or quiet, or materialistic, or sensual, or compassionate, and etc.)
Real simplicity is not even about “want to live a simple life”, but be free from being conditioned by any desires of wants and don’t wants.
We can just live life the best that we can, as we are, in accordance to the reality in the present moment now, without attachment towards the desire of “must have” particular type of lifestyle or living condition the way that we would like it to be.