To be able to help other beings to be free from all kinds of suffering in this world of impermanence, ourselves must first be free.
To be free from suffering is none other than to annihilate the egoism, practice non-attachment, let go of identification and desires of craving and aversion, go beyond all the names and forms, be free from ignorance, seeing the truth of things as they are, make use of this body and mind for attaining emancipation or Self-realization, and to perform selfless actions through this life existence.
Everyone must work hard independently by themselves through their own effort, concentration and determination to be free from ignorance, the root cause of all sufferings.
When we see other beings being in physical, mental and emotional suffering, and out of compassion, we might want to help as much as we can, to provide financial, medical, moral, physical, mental and emotional supports. But, all these supports have certain limitation. We might feel frustrated, disappointed, angry and depressed about situation that is out of our ability and control, or the reality is not the way that how we like it to be.
Whether the experiences that we go through in this life existence are pleasant or unpleasant, good or bad, joyful or sorrowful, easy or hard, all experiences are here to allow us to work on personal evolution and emancipation.
By letting go of egoism, attachment, identification and expectation, there’s no clinging or craving towards the pleasant or desirable experiences, there’s no aversion towards the unpleasant or undesirable experiences. The mind will be resting in a state of equanimity being free from all sorts of impurities like anger, hatred, jealousy, greed, dissatisfaction, disappointment, distraction, agitation, depression, feelings of hurt, guilt, regret, ill-will, ill-thinking, fear, worry, and etc. An equanimous mind allows itself to perceive or reflect the truth of names and forms as they are, without being disturbed, or influenced, or determined by all the different qualities of name and form, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant. There’s no attachment onto all the perceptions of name and form.
This is not the same as those who are mean, hard and cold, without thoughtfulness, sympathy or empathy towards other beings difficulties or suffering.
If we are not free from ignorance, then even though we think we are quite intelligent, knowledgeable, skillful and compassionate beings, and we want to help other beings who are suffering all kinds of difficult conditions and situations, we can’t eliminate all the sufferings in the entire world due to many limitations of a worldly life existence. If we have attachment and expectation, we will be in a state of frustration, disappointment, depression and anger.
Everyone has the right and their own reasons to perform actions, or not, to decide what they want and don’t want.
Nobody can condemn another for what they think and believe, what they do and don’t do, what they want and don’t want, what they agree and don’t agree with.
Just like when somebody decides not to have any children in life due to certain reasons, that is his or her freedom of choice. No one can condemn this person for not wanting to have children.
If people want to have many children of their own and also love to adopt some other children who don’t have parents, or a family, or a home, within or exceed their capability, that is their freedom of choice. No one can condemn them for wanting many children. We have to take the responsibility for our decision to be having these children, and to provide and support them until they are independent. We also have to endure all the hardships that may arise due to the responsibility that we have committed ourselves into.
Untrained minds are unpredictable. A mind used to be very calm, positive, happy and kind might lose its balance under extreme condition, situation, pressure and desperation. One might be over-powered by selfish desires or survival instinct, loses its calmness and will abandon morality, self-control and righteousness, and commit violence or immoral behavior.
The best charity we can give to all beings is not about giving food, shelter, emotional and educational support, so that everyone can have the ability to make a living to feed themselves, or having the opportunity to have their own home and build a family, or having a sufficient comfortable living, or having higher education, but it’s the knowledge of how to be free from ignorance and suffering, to be able to live in peace and harmony from within, undetermined by any qualities of name and form, having the ability to maintain equanimity and clarity of mind, being free from the influence of anger, hatred, jealousy, greed, ill-will, violence, or fear, under any circumstances, condition and situation.
As even by having opportunity in life to grow and improve, and knowing how to make a living to feed ourselves, or having a comfortable living and higher education, it doesn’t guarantee that we will be peaceful and live in harmony, if we are not free from ignorance. There’s no guarantee that once a being is being provided with the basic need for survival, this being will also be free from ignorance, egoism, attachment, craving, aversion, desires, greed, anger, hatred, dissatisfaction, disappointment, jealousy, offensiveness, defensiveness, violence, ill-will, fear and worry.
When a being is free from ignorance, then it doesn’t matter what is the life experience, or how is the life condition, or how is the environment, this being is not being affected, or disturbed, or influenced, or determined by all the impermanent pleasant and unpleasant experiences of the body and mind. When the mind is free from desires of craving and aversion, there’s no clinging onto life existence, there’s no suffering even though life can be really difficult and life threatening. This being will be able to confront any condition and situation calmly and patiently, and doesn’t crave for or expect any forms of assistance and support. This being doesn’t need to be free from suffering, as there’s none.