If people want to be unhappy and upset when they think they are being mistreated, let them be. It’s their freedom to feel how they want to feel.
Most minds are being conditioned to have expectation. They expect to be treated in certain ways and not to be treated in certain ways. They expect all beings should and shouldn’t behave in certain ways, based on what they believe as the good way and the bad way, the right way and the wrong way.
Prideful mind thinks “I deserved to be treated like this, and I don’t deserve to be treated like that” and feels disturbed for being ‘mistreated’ the way that it thinks it shouldn’t be treated.
Low-esteem mind also thinks “I deserved to be treated like this, and I don’t deserve to be treated like that” and feels disturbed for being ‘mistreated’ the way that it thinks it shouldn’t be treated.
Ego-less mind lets everything and everyone to be what they are. There’s no ‘I’ being treated nicely or badly, rightly or wrongly. There’s neither ‘deserve’ nor ‘don’t deserve’. There’s no right treatment or mistreatment, but only different types of treatments. There’s no pride or low-esteem coming from attachment or identification with any qualities of name and form to expect to be treated or not treated in certain ways.
Go beyond all the attachment and identification with any qualities of name and form, and be free.
We are happy and peaceful as we are, regardless what types of treatment we receive from everyone. It’s their freedom. But we are not determined by other people’s freedom of thinking, action and speech to be happy and peaceful, or not.
If we expect other people should or shouldn’t be treating us in certain ways, we will be very disappointed when we are not being treated the way that we think it should be. We are disappointed by our own expectation, it’s not because other people didn’t treat us nicely or rightly. We are not happy is because we are not getting the things that we like and want, or the way that we like it to be, and we are getting something that we don’t like and don’t want.
Even when someone gives us something that we like and want, but, not the way that we like it to be, we will not be satisfied or happy.